So I went into the clinic thinking it was just going to be a simple visit talking about the timeline and plans for IVF. This clinic was totally different than my last one (I explain more about that in my video below). When someone finally came into the room it was a resident, not the doctor. We went over my complete history and the appointment was not leading to IVF being a sure thing. I started getting stressed and asking a million questions. She ended up going to speak with the doctor. He came in and even though he was trying to explain things I had a million thoughts running through my mind. The main thing that came up was that my FSH (follicle-stimulating hormone) was high on all my blood work from the other clinic. This means that my body was working harder than usual to ovulate. I was only 27 when they ran those tests so it definitely should not have been that high. My issue, and my realization now that I should have asked, it that NO ONE TOLD ME at the other clinic that it was high. The tests were done in September and October and no one told me. Instead I was put on medication in preparation for IVF. If I had asked what my numbers where I could have questioned why they were so high and if IVF was worth it. Instead when the doctor told me my test results were normal I trusted him. Another thing was that he told me my tubes where clear and yet the test he ran isn't accurate for diagnosing blocked tubes! There were some other issues regarding information not being recorded even though the doctor verbally told me but I explain that in the video more.
My plans have been crushed yet again. But now I know something I didn't know before.... I NEED TO ASK! I shouldn't just trust the doctors to tell me something, I shouldn't just listen blindly to what they say. Yes, they are the experts but I need to put my infertility and journey into my own hands. If I have a test done or procedure I'm going to ask for the results (either the numbers or print offs). I'm going to see if I can record as much as possible so when it comes time to make decisions I can make an informed choice instead of just doing what I'm told. I've wasted both time and money waiting for IVF when it might not even be the best course of action for me. I might have been able to avoid that if I just asked.
So do yourselves a favour ladies.... START ASKING! Ask to see your test results, ask what they mean but also check multiple sources online (one might not be accurate or unbiased), learn as much as you can about things so that when the doctor tells you something you know what they are talking about and can actually make an informed decision. I thought I knew a lot, I thought I was in control of my treatment, but I was wrong and I'm paying the price now. Ask as many questions as you can and if you don't think that the doctor is a good fit switch! Don't give up hope but don't just go along with whatever gives you the most hope even if it's not realistic.
Here is my video with more information about my appointment and my next steps.
I am 30, single, vegan, and been on my journey to becoming a single mother since 2013. I have struggled with infertility and I am now on the path to international adoption of a little girl with Down syndrome. Come join me on my journey to becoming a mother!