I have another potential birth mom, this one the most promising yet! She has five children, all in care, and this one will be placed in care at birth if she doesn't place with me. She doesn't have the option to parent herself (nor does she want to) so I'm REALLY hoping she places with me. I have met her a few times but don't really "know" her. I LOVE her children. I've written in the past about a student that I would love to adopt from care if the system allowed it but it doesn't so I can't. Well, that's the sister of this baby. I have also taught the brother and he was my favourite as well. The older sister has been through a lot and was always in trouble but just like her siblings there is something in her personality that makes me like her.
This baby really is my ideal scenario. It's the one I wanted to happen. I was told that this birth mom had her tubes tied but they aren't She was on birth control but we all know that it only works if you take it. Considering her lifestyle there are probably a lot of times she doesn't remember to. I wanted a baby from this family and now I might get one. I wanted a baby that was going to be put in care if not placed with me and now I might get one. I'm still waiting for the birth mom to contact me. She has no phone and no internet so it's a little difficult to communicate. I told people to let her know I am interested and for her to call me or come visit. I really hope she does soon!
I don't know when she is due, one person said May, another said June. It is the WORST timing for maternity leave because I will either have to return to work when the baby is really young or try to stretch my budget so I can afford to stay home longer. I'm saving as much as possible and hoping for the longer parental leave. Worse case is I end up going back early... ABSOLUTE worse case is that I end up with a ton of time to save because I don't have a placement.... but I'm not thinking of that, I'm planning on this being my baby because this feels like it was meant to be the one!
I am 29, single, vegan, on my journey to becoming a single mother. I have struggled with infertility and I am now on the path to international adoption. Come join me on my journey to becoming a mother!