I decided to start this blog to share my journey with others as well as my future child. I recently joined the Single Mothers by Choice forum and noticed a lot of women have blogs. It seemed like a good idea to have a place to share my thoughts, ideas, and other randomness while I'm on this path to motherhood.
Since I was about 15 I wanted to be a single mom. I am extremely independent, barely date, have no interest in marriage. My plan was to have IUI with donor sperm for a first child and adopt for a second. I feel no need to have a biological child but I want to experience motherhood from day 1. In April 2012 I was diagnosed with severe endometriosis. I have cysts in both my ovaries and although I ovulate fine I have less than 2% chance of conceiving through IUI. My chances increase to 40% with IVF but the medications will cause the endo to become worse. This led me to explore surrogacy. My friend has been a surrogate multiple times, I was asking her about it and she offered to be mine. She also found someone to donate eggs. My costs will be minimum, donor sperm and the cost to put everything together and into the surrogate. My surrogate has been very successful with her other pregnancies. The only time it didn't work was when the mother insisted on using her own eggs even though they were poor quality. They switched to donor eggs and now have two beautiful girls. Twins are my biggest fear, but we will be taking steps to avoid it. I want to start now, I'm ready now, but my surrogate is not. So here I am waiting.... 1.5 years until we start to try. Hopefully this blog will help pass the time.
I am 30, single, vegan, and been on my journey to becoming a single mother since 2013. I have struggled with infertility and I am now on the path to international adoption of a little girl with Down syndrome. Come join me on my journey to becoming a mother!