My adoption plans have definitely not been going the way I thought they would. I was naive and thought that since so many babies are given to the foster system that a mother would pick me over putting the baby in care. I knew that there was little chance the agency would find me one but I honestly thought I would have a baby by now since who would want to put their baby in care when someone if looking to adopt one. It's been a long year and I no longer feel that adoption is going to get me a baby. I still feel in my heart like adoption is my path but maybe just not to this baby. Instead I've been weighing the pros of adoption versus surrogacy and created this nice chart to show you how surrogacy has definitely become a better option for me.
Once you have a match the wait is less than nine months since the baby is already conceived.
Low miscarriage risk since the birth mother is usually out of the "danger zone" by the time you are matched.
Significantly cheaper than surrogacy.
You get to experience the entire pregnancy.
Control over prenatal care.
No risk of drug or alcohol use during pregnancy.
No interracial issues/culture issues.
Less stigma, especially for child.
Get to name the child without restrictions.
No required visits, letters, pictures etc.
No risk for failed placements.
Guaranteed to get a newborn.
Ability to have a genetic tie to the child or at least input regarding genetics when using a donor(s).
About Me I am 29, single, vegan, on my journey to becoming a single mother. I have struggled with infertility and I am now on the path to international adoption. Come join me on my journey to becoming a mother!
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